How to improve the ability of psychological and emotional management?
In terms of feelings, no matter how good a woman is, she may be abandoned. Never believe in such stupid things as “He doesn’t want me, but I’m not good enough.” The thing is that you are no good no matter how good you are.You are so good that it makes the man stress. He feels that being with you cannot show his strength, he feels deeply tired and eager to break away from your psychological shadow.
Therefore, Faye Wong lost to Plateau and Shao Meiqi lost to Liang Yongqi.
Never believe that the word sturdy is iron. Many times, sturdy, it seems that the power of temptation is not strong enough.
In ancient times, a woman was suspended. If she could not write a verse like Zhuo Wenjun who said, “Wenjun has two opinions, so he decided to go against each other.” If he touches Langjun’s iron heart, he will only cry back to his mother.
But now, the abandoned woman is no longer so tragic.
It’s not terrible to be an abandoned woman.
The terrible thing is that after being abandoned, he slumped for life.
All the abandoned woman needs to do is to remain calm and continue her life.
Make big money carelessly like Faye Wong, and without you, I can fall in love with others; or like Shao Meiqi, after being abandoned by you, I will say nothing.
It is increasingly felt that such women are very contentious. Sometimes we can’t concentrate on doing something very well, largely because we can’t control our emotions well.
You may have experienced this, sitting there trying to read a book, but couldn’t see it.
Your mind is full of thoughts that make your heart not calm.
So, you might open a book without looking at a few pages and then hurriedly close it.
Do you remember when you were a kid you could read a novel in one breath and read it in one breath?
Do you remember when you were a kid you could play with your toys without anyone there?
At that time, we were very simple. We didn’t know how high the sky was and how thick the ground was.
When we grow up, our brains bear too much information: studying, finding a job, buying a house, getting married, etc.-each of these things contains countless amounts of information that we need to master.
So worry came, trouble came, and our hearts became calmer.
Now, I am living a simplified life, using simplified power to manage my emotions, and keeping my heart in a completely calm state.
Today I will talk about how to keep my heart in a calm state, eliminate interference from the outside world, concentrate on doing what I like, and enjoy this kind of fun.
First, stop rejecting this world. Too many people around me hate this world.
Almost every day, rejections from various people are accepted.
The mother cried too much for chores and she didn’t have time to do what she liked.
The meals at the Tears School Cafeteria were so bad.
Even when playing basketball yesterday, some people refused to breathe.
If you make a statistic, how many people are repeating in a day, I think this number will surprise you.
How good it is to live in this world, why delay it?
My troubled today is not exactly the tomorrow that those who died yesterday prayed for?
We should look at this world with gratitude.
Thanks for these sufferings, so that I can experience the pain in the world.
Last month I was tripped by someone while playing basketball, sprained my right foot, and looked swollen like a hoe.
The day before yesterday I went to play basketball and the glasses frame was broken by the ball, and I had to re-match the glasses . I won’t repeat the person who tripped me or cry that basketball.
Instead, I look at this issue with gratitude.
Thank him for giving me pain, let me understand how good the healthy feet are; thank basketball for smashing my glasses, letting me realize how important this little thing on the bridge of the nose is.
You may think I’m stupid, but it is this attitude of disappointment that keeps me at ease at all times and is not shocked.
Sometimes things are not good or bad, it’s just that people who look at the problem are in different realms.
Maybe your life is poor, maybe you have no friends, maybe you don’t have a job, maybe you don’t have a family, so you eagerly want to relieve yourself of the heavy burden.
However, sometimes destiny is not so smooth, there will always be one or two things in the abyss that suffocate you.Sighing that your destiny is not good, it will stifle your birth, parents, superiors . stop your tears and calm your irritable mood.
These things you complain about are not the cause of your current situation, the real reason is your own mentality.
And these situations will never change unless you are willing to change your mindset.
When I choked myself that my jumping ability was not good, I saw people without legs on the street.
When I choked on a fly in this dish, I passed the scavengers by the side of the road.
When I suspected that the house was too busy, I saw travelers on the street at the station.
When I suspect that there is too much work and too much work, I see out-of-school children and laid-off workers.
What can we trust?
Isn’t this world giving us enough, and what value do we create for this world?
I always think that these things we endure may be worthy of showing off to others. Are we moaning without disease or moaning without disease?
Second, simplify life and stay away from the hustle and bustle.
There is a very simple story: an individual saw an old man fishing at the beach, and it was strange that the fish he caught would be put back into the sea.
This person was very unclear and asked the old man: “Why don’t you sell the fish you catch?
The old man asked, “Why should I sell it?”
“The man replied,” That way you can make money.
“The old man asked,” What if you have money?
“The man said,” It’s good to have money. With money, you can make more money. Then you can buy a house by the sea. You can enjoy the sea breeze and fishing every day. How good is that life . “The old man smiled., This article: “Then you say, what am I doing now?
“This story has a deep meaning. It turns out that what we have been pursuing, we already have.
When we stop rejecting the world, we look at it with gratitude.
I often warn myself that whatever I do, I must calm down my mind.
Like a hermit master, stay away from the hustle and bustle and concentrate on doing the work at hand.
Like a child, focus on your own toys and don’t care about other things.
I think this is focus.
Just like when I was writing this article, I stayed in the dormitory alone. At this moment, there are still 10 days before the start of school. During this time, I can think alone and feel this quiet and isolated world.
I think that only when a person has a calm heart and a calm mind can he exercise keen insight and extraordinary judgment.
So, in life, I often look for this kind of opportunity to be alone, thinking about how to simplify my life and stay away from the hustle and bustle.
If you feel emotionally out of control, you might try to stay away from this flashy earth and walk alone in the mountains.
Feel the power of nature and make your heart quiet.
At this time, your thoughts will gather together, and your insight and judgment will reach their peak, allowing you to face any difficulties, including your own shortcomings.
Every time I am alone, I will understand myself more deeply, understand my inner enemy, and start thinking about how to solve the problem and defeat the enemy.
The ability to manage one’s emotions is gradually developed.
In the past, I was very easy to get out of control, and sometimes even wanted to cry for no reason. Later, after experiencing countless frustrations, I gradually cultivated my perseverance.
In front of any problem, I always keep my inner peace, and don’t go on first, but look at the problem with gratitude.
Use your innate insight and judgment to solve problems. Only by solving problems that you don’t know can you be promoted.
The same goes for emotional management.
Annoyed, never put personal grievances on the table, even weeping to 隅, and do not be Xianglin 嫂.
I remember reading an advertisement a long time ago saying that love is beautiful precisely because it is free to choose.
This sentence is not unreasonable.
Whoever you love and who you don’t love is free to choose.And choosing love or choosing material, why not be a person’s freedom?
Men pursuing money is called pursuing a career, and there is nothing wrong with it; then how can a woman pursuing materiality become a sinner for all ages and be insulted?
Even if she wants to use marriage to get her own rich life, as long as she doesn’t use mean means, who is entitled to accuse her of anything?
We all have different aspirations.
You want your love, she wants her materiality, her life posture is different, there is no right or wrong question.
Be a strong, self-reliant, beautiful woman.
A woman can be born unpretty, but she must live beautiful.
At any time, profound knowledge, good cultivation, civilized manners, elegant talking, broad minds, and a heart full of love will surely make a person live beautiful enough, even if you do not grow upVery beautiful.
To live beautifully is to live out a spirit, a taste, and a truly wonderful splendor.
As long as one does not give up, I believe no one can hinder your progress.